The Curious Case of Hit-and-Run L.O.V.E.
Some consider it just a dating casualty, some think of it as a game of Ding-Dong-Ditch-it, and Kim Kardashian’s little bro Rob calls it, “Hit-it-and-Quit-it”. Sound familiar?
Men may chuckle under their breath or smirk a bit at the notion, but every woman has a little pain, some scars and perhaps a few open wounds attached to this concept. Women experience sex followed by absolute radio silence quite differently than men. To men it is like they got away with something sneaky. It is a relief to a guy when a woman doesn’t stalk him after he nails her then bails her. Men who are players don’t want to return to the scene of the perfect crime. It’s far easier for them to go find another unsuspecting chick, fresh meat basically, to run the same game on. He will then vanish on her too and so on and so on. Why? Because that’s the sport, that’s THE GAME; that is what Love Thief sets out to do in the first place.
When a guy suddenly disappears after being intimate, it can be very painful, frustrating, heart-wrenching and even devastating to a woman. It trashes her self-esteem, can demolish her ability to ever trust a man again as long as she lives, and can cause untold psychological damage. Do men care? Hell no. Why should they? If we women are dumb enough to put out without monogamy – get ready – we have it coming. Men are predators. It’s in their nature. Anytime a guy can get a piece and skip away scot-free, no accountability, he will generally do it. The temptation is too great, especially in today’s society. Women have become easier and easier with each passing decade. Online dating and social media make it possible for a guy to snag a hook up in less than an hour without spending a dime on dinner, drinks or gas. What guy isn’t celebrating that miracle of modern technology?
One thing that hasn’t changed is that guys want to get laid. They will lie, cheat and steal their way into a woman’s pants. In days gone by, men would at least buy dinner, bring flowers, and even call the next day. Nowadays, if a woman is lucky, the guy may give an obligatory call or two in the following weeks, but there is always the suspicion it is merely to ensure him future booty calls. You know, keeping her on the back burner in case he has a dry spell. And why they do this? Because we let them.
Think of men as sexual thieves. If you leave your diamond jewelry and a stack of cash sitting on the table and turn your head, thieves are going to grab it and run. Why do robbers grab someone’s purse or wallet and then make a break for it? After breaking into a bank and robbing the safe, robbers don’t come back the next day and sit and socialize with the security guards and hang out with the tellers they stole from the day before saying stuff like, “hey, that was fun, let’s do it again sometime,” now do they? No. They hop on the next one way flight to Costa Rica. Why? Because they are thieves and that is what thieves do. They get what they can get and get out. Making a clean escape after the crime is a victory for them. In the beginning, they will tell you what they think you want to hear, and will see if they can get sex easily and without putting out too much effort or having to spend too much time or money on the woman. They don’t want to be responsible for a woman’s feelings in any way shape or form. Hit and run is the technique. Sex without accountability is their goal. Once that goal is achieved, they will tell you some nonsense like having to “re-park the car” they left in front of your place and promise to be right back. What they’ll do instead is high tail it for the hills because they don’t want to witness the mess they’ve created.
The ONLY way for a woman to find out if a guy is a sex thief (or love thief in more extreme cases) is to WAIT. Time will tell you if he is in it to get a quick fix or if he’ll disappear if you don’t put out. If he is actually interested in being a man and having an actual relationship, he will stick around and enjoy spending time with you even if he is not getting any. Mind you, they ALL say they want a relationship. That’s how the users sucker girls in, but in most cases it’s a lie. Thieves like easy marks, and women who make men wait are hard targets and usually not worth the effort to jerks who make a career out of the “hit & run” game.
So my contention is as follows: Guys who are going to vanish after sex, will vanish anyway. If you just wait long enough without giving them any, they will toss you aside for an easier mark. They won’t try that hard to see you, spend time with you or get to know you. They won’t care about what is going on in your life, your feelings, what matters to you or even what happens to you. They won’t even call to see if you made it home ok. Having sex with a guy too soon does NOT make him run. It just shows you who that guy is: a real man or a lying, conniving piece of excrement. If it is the latter, don’t be afraid to lose his number and say: N-E-X-T!
By Tinka Milinovic
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