COMMENT>>> A cute, smart, educated girl in her early 20’s recently asked me how do you deal with “Players”? It’s an interesting question. She wanted to know how to capture the heart of a player. BAD IDEA. She also wanted to know how NOT to develop emotions thus getting motored over by a Playboy/Pick-Up Artist. [...]
Where Have All the Real Men Gone? The Weak American Male
PASSIVE AMERICAN MALE COMMENT>>> Have you noticed American guys being passive and/or too timid to make a move or take the lead? And, mind you, when I say American Males, I am generally speaking of East and West coast men. Los Angeles and Manhattan. This won’t apply to Texas Cowboys or middle America men’s men [...]
Save the Marriage….Be Your Man’s Ho! Ho! Ho!
COMMENT>>> I have a gorgeous lovely girlfriend in her early 40s, married to a billionaire, living a fabulous jet setting life of luxury. They have a grown up kid. Sounds good so far, right? From the outside seems like a dream. Who wouldn’t want that kind of life? There is a backstory though. See, now [...]
Is Hooking Up at the Office Christmas Party a Mistake? Or Amazing?
COMMENT>> It’s an age old situation. Anyone who has ever worked in an office where there was a Christmas party has experienced or witnessed someone hooking up with someone else. Maybe you have done it yourself. Back in the day of booze soaked office parties, people let loose a little, sometimes a little too much. [...]
Should You Give a Guy You’re Dating a Christmas Gift?
COMMENT>>> It’s the Christmas Spirit, the season of giving. Isn’t giving a gift what Christmas and New Year’s Eve are all about? The answer to that question is YES…BUT not an expensive one. I love giving gifts although it is a general consensus that women should NOT give gifts to men they are only dating because [...]
Romance or Roommate?
COMMENT>>> I’ve got a girlfriend in NYC whose (now ex) boyfriend wanted her to move in with him. She liked him a lot, so she did. But even though he was making 3-4x more $$$ than she, he still wanted her to pay 50/50 for the rent, dinners, food, furniture, etc. She tried, and tried, [...]
The “SEDUCTION TACTICS” Scam
Ever heard of a book called THE GAME by Neil Strauss? If you are a man you have probably read it and most certainly heard of it. If you are a woman you may wonder what’s that? Or you may have heard of it and the mere mention of it makes your blood turn to [...]
Brain As The Most Important Sexual Organ…
…and The Role It Has In The L.O.V.E Addiction. COMMENT>> Ever been totally, flat out, OBSESSED with someone after the break up? So obsessed to the point of being completely incapacitated, debilitated, and effed up beyond recognition? Ever experienced a break up so horrendously painful or gone into a relationship with someone you KNOW is all [...]
Advice for Men: A Girl is Like a Bird
COMMENT>> A male reader emailed me recently with the following question: “Dear Tinka, men who act like ‘Love Burglars’ you talked about, make things more difficult for the rest of us guys. Too many women, because of their own personal experiences, start out dating men with the presumption of guilt rather than innocence (especially if [...]
For Men: Finding the Woman You are Looking For
COMMENT>> I got the following question from a reader. Below is my reply. “……..Tinka, it would be great if you could share with us men, the flip side of the coin. How can men find the woman they have been looking for (and not the women who are overly materialistic and selfish)? Hopefully you will [...]
THE LOST ART OF DATING
COMMENT>> We lost the ability to go out on a date expecting nothing. Most of us, when going out on a date, expect to at least find out whether we like the other person or not. We stopped understanding what dating is all about and no longer know how to date. Dating is not “Oh I fancy you, so now I want to [...]
LOVE BURGLAR
The Curious Case of Hit-and-Run L.O.V.E. COMMENT>> Some consider it just a dating casualty, some think of it as a game of Ding-Dong-Ditch-it, and Kim Kardashian’s little bro Rob calls it, “Hit-it-and-Quit-it”. Sound familiar? Men may chuckle under their breath or smirk a bit at the notion, but every woman has a little pain, some [...]
Tinka’s Top 10 Tips for The Ladies
COMMENT>> 1. Ladies, Allow a Man to be a Gentleman: You want to date a gentleman? Let him be one. Encourage him to be a gentleman and don’t accept ungentlemanly behavior. Relationships need to be nurtured. Good behavior needs to be rewarded. If he opens the door for you, thank him. Let him know you noticed. [...]
Dear Tinka: Thrifty Millionaires aka Tight-Wad Suitors
COMMENT Hello Tinka My girlfriend showed me your website, and finding your opinion close to ours I decided to ask you for advice. Shortly about me and my girlfriend. We work In the gentlemen club in NYC. One of the best ones and very nice one. We both are very sexy and nice ladies. And [...]
Boomerang Boyfriend: Why They Always Come Back?
COMMENT Why all exes at some point come back like a boomerang wanting another chance at relationship or to marry you? It reminds me of this old kids song called “The Cat Came Back” and the lyrics perfectly illustrate the ex-boyfriend that keeps coming back and comin’ back and comin’ back. No matter what you [...]
Wussification of the American Male
COMMENT Men these days are big babies. They are precious little man-child divas who expect women to cater to their every whim. They are like these overgrown little adolescent boys who are used to stomping their feet or holding their breath til they turn blue to get what they want and they usually don’t even [...]
What to do When You Find Out Your Guy is Cheating?
If you find out your boyfriend or husband is cheating while you LOVE HIM, dump him. Just dump him. This “stand by your man” stuff is BS. So what if you’re pregnant? Women make it on their own with kids all that time. Hillary stuck by Bill, but then again she is more into her [...]
To Peel Or Not To Peel?
…i.e.: American or Jewish guys vs. European guys who are uncut. What is the difference sexually? American women have, in general never experienced an uncircumcised penis. Almost never. So when they first see one, it’s a shock they have to get over. It takes a little time to get past how, umm, unattractive it is [...]
