Does He Want You On HIS Terms? Or Does He Love You but ONLY when it Suits Him? He twists women around and ties them in knots like pretzles. Jerking them in 10 different directions. Pulling them like taffy and laughing all the while. What he may not realize is Wishy-Washy men turn ugly in [...]
Is He an Asset or Liability? Do the Math!
We do a balance sheet to determine the viability of a business, to assess potential investments, and to determine financial strategies. Business is business, right? Well, relationships are business too. It’s the business of our personal lives and overall really the most important business of our lives, because if that’s messed up – everything is [...]
TINKA Travelista
It’s mid January and I’m back in LA. I had my winter trip all planned out but ended up experiencing the unexpected adventure I could never have planned. Went to Sarajevo to see my folks, Dubai and Abu Dhabi to see a friend, Oman to experience its breathtaking nature, then Vienna for Christmas, and finally Kitzbühel, [...]
How to Deal with PLAYERS w/out Getting Burned
COMMENT>>> A cute, smart, educated girl in her early 20’s recently asked me how do you deal with “Players”? It’s an interesting question. She wanted to know how to capture the heart of a player. BAD IDEA. She also wanted to know how NOT to develop emotions thus getting motored over by a Playboy/Pick-Up Artist. [...]
Pizza Delivery
COMMENT You know the scenario: You meet a guy, he likes you, you like him back. He wants to see you again, get to know you better, take you out. You want the same. Unfortunately you don’t live in the same country. He asks you to meet him on his or neutral territory, BUT does [...]
Alone for the Holidays
COMMENT>>> Alone for the holidays? Check. No date for New Years? Check. Another Thanksgiving, Christmas, NYE with all the people who have no partner and no family? Check. Admitting the problem is the first step to recovery, right? So what is it you are supposed to recover from at holidays alone? Do you start thinking, [...]
Ashton & Demi “Swing” Their Way Right into Divorce Court
DO OPEN MARRIAGES LIKE ASHTON AND DEMI’S REALLY WORK? Sources say Demi and Ashton had an “Open Marriage.” The gossip rags claim Demi is Bi and didn’t mind Ashton having flings as long as she knew about it and presumably he didn’t mind her being with other women, maybe other men, maybe threesomes, who knows… [...]
Is Hooking Up at the Office Christmas Party a Mistake? Or Amazing?
COMMENT>> It’s an age old situation. Anyone who has ever worked in an office where there was a Christmas party has experienced or witnessed someone hooking up with someone else. Maybe you have done it yourself. Back in the day of booze soaked office parties, people let loose a little, sometimes a little too much. [...]
Should You Give a Guy You’re Dating a Christmas Gift?
COMMENT>>> It’s the Christmas Spirit, the season of giving. Isn’t giving a gift what Christmas and New Year’s Eve are all about? The answer to that question is YES…BUT not an expensive one. I love giving gifts although it is a general consensus that women should NOT give gifts to men they are only dating because [...]
Romance or Roommate?
COMMENT>>> I’ve got a girlfriend in NYC whose (now ex) boyfriend wanted her to move in with him. She liked him a lot, so she did. But even though he was making 3-4x more $$$ than she, he still wanted her to pay 50/50 for the rent, dinners, food, furniture, etc. She tried, and tried, [...]
The “SEDUCTION TACTICS” Scam
Ever heard of a book called THE GAME by Neil Strauss? If you are a man you have probably read it and most certainly heard of it. If you are a woman you may wonder what’s that? Or you may have heard of it and the mere mention of it makes your blood turn to [...]
Is Something Rotten in Kardashianland?
COMMENT>> In what appears to be a twisted Cinderella Fairytale of a story, Kim Kardashian went in search of her Prince Charming. She roamed the land for years dating athletes and whoever else came her way. Finally she settled on Kris Humphries and forced the slipper to fit. She wanted it all, the fairytale wedding, [...]
Brain As The Most Important Sexual Organ…
…and The Role It Has In The L.O.V.E Addiction. COMMENT>> Ever been totally, flat out, OBSESSED with someone after the break up? So obsessed to the point of being completely incapacitated, debilitated, and effed up beyond recognition? Ever experienced a break up so horrendously painful or gone into a relationship with someone you KNOW is all [...]
Advice for Men: A Girl is Like a Bird
COMMENT>> A male reader emailed me recently with the following question: “Dear Tinka, men who act like ‘Love Burglars’ you talked about, make things more difficult for the rest of us guys. Too many women, because of their own personal experiences, start out dating men with the presumption of guilt rather than innocence (especially if [...]
For Men: Finding the Woman You are Looking For
COMMENT>> I got the following question from a reader. Below is my reply. “……..Tinka, it would be great if you could share with us men, the flip side of the coin. How can men find the woman they have been looking for (and not the women who are overly materialistic and selfish)? Hopefully you will [...]
