Does He Want You On HIS Terms? Or Does He Love You but ONLY when it Suits Him? He twists women around and ties them in knots like pretzles. Jerking them in 10 different directions. Pulling them like taffy and laughing all the while. What he may not realize is Wishy-Washy men turn ugly in [...]
Is He an Asset or Liability? Do the Math!
We do a balance sheet to determine the viability of a business, to assess potential investments, and to determine financial strategies. Business is business, right? Well, relationships are business too. It’s the business of our personal lives and overall really the most important business of our lives, because if that’s messed up – everything is [...]
Can Older Woman/Younger Man Relationships Work?
COMMENT>>> Now that the quintessential Cougar/Cub couple Ashton & Demi are now defunct, does that mean older woman/younger man relationships are doomed? Anytime the subject came up or if someone you knew was in that kind of relationship, invariably Ashton and Demi would be used as an example of how it can work and work [...]
Pizza Delivery
COMMENT You know the scenario: You meet a guy, he likes you, you like him back. He wants to see you again, get to know you better, take you out. You want the same. Unfortunately you don’t live in the same country. He asks you to meet him on his or neutral territory, BUT does [...]
Where Have All the Real Men Gone? The Weak American Male
PASSIVE AMERICAN MALE COMMENT>>> Have you noticed American guys being passive and/or too timid to make a move or take the lead? And, mind you, when I say American Males, I am generally speaking of East and West coast men. Los Angeles and Manhattan. This won’t apply to Texas Cowboys or middle America men’s men [...]
Ashton & Demi “Swing” Their Way Right into Divorce Court
DO OPEN MARRIAGES LIKE ASHTON AND DEMI’S REALLY WORK? Sources say Demi and Ashton had an “Open Marriage.” The gossip rags claim Demi is Bi and didn’t mind Ashton having flings as long as she knew about it and presumably he didn’t mind her being with other women, maybe other men, maybe threesomes, who knows… [...]
Should You Give a Guy You’re Dating a Christmas Gift?
COMMENT>>> It’s the Christmas Spirit, the season of giving. Isn’t giving a gift what Christmas and New Year’s Eve are all about? The answer to that question is YES…BUT not an expensive one. I love giving gifts although it is a general consensus that women should NOT give gifts to men they are only dating because [...]
Romance or Roommate?
COMMENT>>> I’ve got a girlfriend in NYC whose (now ex) boyfriend wanted her to move in with him. She liked him a lot, so she did. But even though he was making 3-4x more $$$ than she, he still wanted her to pay 50/50 for the rent, dinners, food, furniture, etc. She tried, and tried, [...]
The “SEDUCTION TACTICS” Scam
Ever heard of a book called THE GAME by Neil Strauss? If you are a man you have probably read it and most certainly heard of it. If you are a woman you may wonder what’s that? Or you may have heard of it and the mere mention of it makes your blood turn to [...]
Brain As The Most Important Sexual Organ…
…and The Role It Has In The L.O.V.E Addiction. COMMENT>> Ever been totally, flat out, OBSESSED with someone after the break up? So obsessed to the point of being completely incapacitated, debilitated, and effed up beyond recognition? Ever experienced a break up so horrendously painful or gone into a relationship with someone you KNOW is all [...]
Advice for Men: A Girl is Like a Bird
COMMENT>> A male reader emailed me recently with the following question: “Dear Tinka, men who act like ‘Love Burglars’ you talked about, make things more difficult for the rest of us guys. Too many women, because of their own personal experiences, start out dating men with the presumption of guilt rather than innocence (especially if [...]
For Men: Finding the Woman You are Looking For
COMMENT>> I got the following question from a reader. Below is my reply. “……..Tinka, it would be great if you could share with us men, the flip side of the coin. How can men find the woman they have been looking for (and not the women who are overly materialistic and selfish)? Hopefully you will [...]
THE LOST ART OF DATING
COMMENT>> We lost the ability to go out on a date expecting nothing. Most of us, when going out on a date, expect to at least find out whether we like the other person or not. We stopped understanding what dating is all about and no longer know how to date. Dating is not “Oh I fancy you, so now I want to [...]
LOVE BURGLAR
The Curious Case of Hit-and-Run L.O.V.E. COMMENT>> Some consider it just a dating casualty, some think of it as a game of Ding-Dong-Ditch-it, and Kim Kardashian’s little bro Rob calls it, “Hit-it-and-Quit-it”. Sound familiar? Men may chuckle under their breath or smirk a bit at the notion, but every woman has a little pain, some [...]
Tinka’s Top 10 Tips for The Ladies
COMMENT>> 1. Ladies, Allow a Man to be a Gentleman: You want to date a gentleman? Let him be one. Encourage him to be a gentleman and don’t accept ungentlemanly behavior. Relationships need to be nurtured. Good behavior needs to be rewarded. If he opens the door for you, thank him. Let him know you noticed. [...]
Top 10 Tips Every “Gentleman” Should Know
The Lost Art of Being a Gentleman COMMENT>> 1. Remember Courtship: Dating is an ART, not just a rush to get laid ASAP. Always keep this in mind! Dating should be like an enjoyable play, not a dreaded task. 2. Dial Back the Pomposity: Only talk about yourself when the lady asks. Don’t ramble on with unsolicited [...]
Dear Tinka: Thrifty Millionaires aka Tight-Wad Suitors
COMMENT Hello Tinka My girlfriend showed me your website, and finding your opinion close to ours I decided to ask you for advice. Shortly about me and my girlfriend. We work In the gentlemen club in NYC. One of the best ones and very nice one. We both are very sexy and nice ladies. And [...]
Boomerang Boyfriend: Why They Always Come Back?
COMMENT Why all exes at some point come back like a boomerang wanting another chance at relationship or to marry you? It reminds me of this old kids song called “The Cat Came Back” and the lyrics perfectly illustrate the ex-boyfriend that keeps coming back and comin’ back and comin’ back. No matter what you [...]
Don’t Leave Me Hangin’ on the Telephone
COMMENT Let’s talk about social skills and etiquette. It is a matter of politeness and etiquette that if you like someone romantically, developing things with them and/or scheduling to meet them, you CANNOT always just rely on texting this person. It’s rude. What, did the price of a phone call got more expansive? There [...]
Gold Digging Dinner Mooching Chicks & Guys Who Worry About Being “Used for Food”
COMMENT A NYC friend told me his concerns about women potentially using him for free food dates and good company, without having a real interest in him as a man. I’ve heard many versions and concerns regarding the same matter from both men and women. And this is what it is: Only wimpy, whiny cheapskate [...]
